My significant other and I decided to end things. Granted, it was waiting to happen because of what we wanted for our future. I wanted to enjoy the relationship until we part ways but we all know things don't go as planned. The time we had together was wonderful and I was extremely happy. It just sucks when the little voice tells you it will end soon.
Can someone be incapable of love? He mentioned that he maybe is, but I dispute this as quickly as he said it. Everyone can love, it's a choice if they want to. Like really want to.
Love, to me, is a sum of different actions that makes you feel safe, cared for, adored, and appreciated. I rather have someone tell me they really adored the way I laugh or that I make them feel safe and appreciated in our relationship. You can say you love me, but please tell me you care about me and you want me to trust you. That takes courage and understanding. They get that love itself is not enough. Sparks fade, but hard work and commitment doesn't.
Sigh* I know I am too understanding, too emphatic, too nice, too EVERYTHING. I believe in the good in others. I want to fix things. I want to bring out the best in someone. Selfish people gravitate towards the very giving... and the very giving have a hard time seeing when they are blinded by bliss.
Can someone be incapable of love? He mentioned that he maybe is, but I dispute this as quickly as he said it. Everyone can love, it's a choice if they want to. Like really want to.
Love, to me, is a sum of different actions that makes you feel safe, cared for, adored, and appreciated. I rather have someone tell me they really adored the way I laugh or that I make them feel safe and appreciated in our relationship. You can say you love me, but please tell me you care about me and you want me to trust you. That takes courage and understanding. They get that love itself is not enough. Sparks fade, but hard work and commitment doesn't.
Sigh* I know I am too understanding, too emphatic, too nice, too EVERYTHING. I believe in the good in others. I want to fix things. I want to bring out the best in someone. Selfish people gravitate towards the very giving... and the very giving have a hard time seeing when they are blinded by bliss.
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